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The Parenting Paradox

A Guide to How Grief and Joy Coexist in Early Parenthood

Download a Guide That Meets You Where You Are

Download “The Parenting Paradox” to reflect, grieve, and reconnect with yourself in this season of parenthood.

A free mini-guide to help you hold both joy and grief, from clinical psychologist Dr. Lilly Jay

You don’t have to pick one feeling. You’re allowed to feel it all.

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New parenthood can bring overwhelming love, laughter, and awe—while also stirring grief, disappointment, loneliness, or the loss of what you imagined it would be. This is normal. And you are not alone.

In this free, beautifully designed mini-guide, Dr. Lilly Jay, licensed clinical psychologist and perinatal mental health expert, gently guides you through the emotional complexity of early parenthood. You'll be invited to explore how joy and sorrow can coexist, and how making space for all your feelings can be healing.

Meet Dr. Lilly Jay

Meet Dr. Lilly Jay

Dr. Lilly Jay

PsyD, PMH-C, Perinatal Health

Dr. Lilly Jay is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in child development and perinatal mental health and founding member of Riley's Clinical Advisory Board. With advanced training in areas such as infertility, birth trauma, and child loss, she supports parents through some of life’s most complex experiences with warmth and compassion.

Download “The Parenting Paradox” by Dr. Lilly Jay to reflect, and reconnect with yourself in this season of parenthood.

What You’ll Get:

Journal prompts

Journal prompts

To name grief, celebrate joy, and reconnect with your inner voice

Clinically-informed insights

On perinatal mental health and emotional duality

Poetic reflections

That will leave you feeling seen and supported

Download the Guide That Meets You Where You Are

Download “The Parenting Paradox” by Dr. Lilly Jay to reflect, grieve, and reconnect with yourself in this season of parenthood.

This Guide Is For You If You’re...

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    Feeling every emotion (and emotionally overwhelmed!) in the postpartum period.


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    Grieving the birth experience or early bonding relationship you hoped for.


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    Wanting to understand yourself, and your emotions, with more compassion.

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    Wondering why you feel sad even in joyful moments.


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